Dear Friends and Family: I had a
birthday party and tomorrow I hope to have the birthday. Here's
sharing a bit of the party with you. Mary M. Morgan
morning at 3 a.m. I was awakend with a start. Oh, damn, it
must be that "showing up" birthday party with its snafus
exploding again. What this time, I pleaded with my mind?
I was answered almost immediately: Saturday I was telling an
entertaining story about Alderson, my birthplace's, claim to
fame--Fed. Penitentiary for Women, Axis Sally, Martha
Stewart, etc., "A good place to spend time" on a popular T
shirt and here, at Bryan Center, Yellow Springs, Ohio, about
6 feet in front of me was Hazel Tulecke who had "showed up"
at the School of Americas, committed civil disobedience, was
arrested, fined and punished with months of incarceration at
The Federal Prison for Women at Alderson, WV and it was NOT
in the video nor had I remembered it at the party.
was mortified. I had heard Hazel herself tell me, the first
month I was in Yellow Springs, of her experience in
Alderson. I was greatly impressed with her bravery and her
commitment to peace and justice.
Two years later I stopped in Alderson, on my way to inter my
sister Virginia's ashes in the family plot, and to see, one
more time, my birthplace. Before leaving the town I wanted
to show Jan Alderson's Department Store (now on the Nat'l
Historic Registry). It a beautiful example of "art deco"
architecture and natural woodwork interior.
We stopped and shopped! That store was where my father
bought our textbooks while we looked at the gorgeous clothes
we could not afford. But now, no longer poor, I looked at
clothes and immediately saw what I wanted to take back to
Yellow Springs--a ladies knit shirt that said, "Alderson-A
Nice Place To Spend Time", which on my return to Yellow
Springs I gave to Hazel Tulecke along with a note thanking
her for her "showing up" to protest the SOA. Bill told me
later that she wore it every day until he suggested she take
it off to be laundered.
How is it possible, that 8 years later, I could have
forgotten about Hazel and didn't get that in my "Showing
Up'' video? And even worse watched the video at my birthday
party, told about the famous T shirt with Hazel almost in my
line of sight and still didn't remember it. I am mortified.
Today, Monday, after a rousing game of Jolley Ball (chair
volley ball at the Senior Center) I asked Bill to hear this
confession. Yes, when he saw and heard my video he
remembered about Hazel and regretted that he hadn't picked
out that shirt for her to appear in at the party. Hazel had
other plans for the afternoon and they left early. Bill came
back prepared to tell about Hazel's "showing up" at the SOA
but the party was breaking up and he didn't get the chance .
What a golden opportunity to enrich my "showing up" party
that was omitted by my increasing "onset dementia" (that's
the professional diagnosis--normal decline--not Alzheimer's,
thank the goddess.)
Bill took my apology with a chuckle and told me about his
friend who forgot his wife at a service station. That's
Bill. Hazel waited, silent and patiently, for us to finish
I'm sending this story to everybody in my email address book
to make some amends and to show off the lovely birthday cake
picture. Thanks Pat. In sisterhood, Mary M, Morgan, 88