1928 - Alderson High School - 1968



Friend: One who is personally well
known by oneself and for whom one has
warm regards and affection; intimate.
Dan Duff

I have heard it said that if a man died and had one true friend, he was fortunate. If he died and had two true friends, he was most fortunate. If he died and had three true friends, he died a wealthy man.

The Amish use the word friend to signify a fellow member of their sect. Others use it to classify anyone they have an acquaintance with. I have known people who would start a sentence with, “I have a friend..........” or maybe they will substitute the word buddy, “I have a buddy........”. I submit to you that a vast difference lies between a friend and an acquaintance.

I must admit the word is used in a lot of cases where there is not much reason to use it. Some people like to brag about having a lot of friends. I think they use the term in order to sell themselves or their wares to people. Some use it to try to puff themselves up to be more important than they actually are and some use the word without fully realizing the real meaning or it’s significance..

I can say looking back on my life that I have been blessed with a few good friends. If
one of them called me and said they had a need, I would do everything in my power to see those needs met. I would do anything to be there to share their burden and try to lift them out of any pit. I feel in my heart of hearts that those same people would come to my aid just as rapidly should I need it.

I think the meaning of a true friend is a person who knows everything there is to know about you and still likes to be around you. That certainly separates the wheat from the weeds real quick and lets you know why a lot of people have taken your name out of their rolodex.

It is not easy being a true friend. It means you have to show yourself friendly. It means you have to bite your tongue and swallow your pride. It means you sometimes have to tell your friend things you know will go against the grain of your relationship. It means that sometimes you will have to defend that person when it is not popular to do so.

Fear not though, there is a bright side. That person will come to your aid when needed and will go through the rough times with you. They will laugh and cry and stay true until the bitter end and never expect anything in return.

I am sure along the way I have taken some names out of the rolodex and have added some new ones. I know for sure there have been people who used me and took advantage of my friendship. I would not be honest if I didn’t admit that I used some people along life’s trail to get what I wanted or to get where I wanted to go.

There are those who make it a habit of using others, they make themselves friendly to get into someone’s favor just to take advantage of their friendship.. I knew a person like that once. When he died his widow sat alone at the funeral home and pall barriers had to be hired to take him to the cemetery.

It is a secure feeling indeed to know that you have one friend whom you can count on to help you through life’s ups and downs. A friend that will be there even when the whole world turns against you. It is a good feeling to know you will be there for your friend, if he should ever need you.

We all need a friend. We all need someone in our life whom we know for sure, when the storm comes, they will be there? If you have such a friend, you should hold them in your bosom like an alabaster box. A treasure, set aside for a special time.

My wife is my very best friend. That is as it should be. She has seen me through some tough times and has been strong when I was weak. I’ve had other friends who have been there for me, but not with the love and dedication she has shown.. She knows when the storm comes in her life that I will be her rock, her pillar of strength, when she is weak.

Who will be the first to arrive and the last to leave when life’s storms hit?

A friend...... It is not only the right thing to do. It is the friendly thing to do.