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St. Valentine’s day comes up and millions of men hurry to some store to buy
his wife,
lover or friend candy and flowers mostly out of a guilty conscience. They
will make
reservations at some over priced restaurant and for one of the few times in
their life, they
will take two showers in one day. They will work themselves into a state
just short of a
full blown heart attack, because just like everything else in their lives,
they wait until the
absolute last minute and hope they can get it all done on the cell phone
before they get to
the driveway of their home.
Women want to be doted on. Especially on Valentines Day, their birthday,
anniversary,
Christmas, or Thursday night. They want to be told or shown that they are
the most
important thing in his life. If not, you can believe that he will hear
about it time and time
and time and time again. They say the basic problem that plagues men is
that they never
remember and that women never forget. My wife says it’s very simple and it
has been
tested and proven that women can handle multiple tasks at one time and able
to finish
them quickly. Men can only handle one task at a time and it takes them twice
as long to
finish. I have asked her to get me the name of the woman who conducted the
tests.
Men believe they show their love by bringing home a nice pay check, putting
his wife up
in a nice house in a nice neighborhood and giving her a good reliable SUV to
get around
while doing her soccer mom chores. It is up to the man to do all this plus
keep the love
flame glowing as it did on their third date. She expects this, but forgets
the tests that
show man cannot do multi-tasks. “It doesn’t matter”, she will exclaim “ it
just goes to
show you, he doesn’t love me like he used to.”
He really does. It is just that he has gone through a lot of changes in his
life and most of
them because of her. Growing up he lived with his parents. Besides mowing
the lawn
once a week in the summer and shoveling the snow from the walk and driveway,
his time
was pretty much his own. School wasn’t all that hard and it gave him
something to do
during the day. He could party at night and date that special someone. He
would
occasionally take her flowers and on Valentines Day he would give her a box
of
chocolates or a teddy bear. He could always squeeze out a few extra bucks
from his
parents for gas and pizza on Friday night and as far as he was concerned the
world was
perfect. He would sleep in on the weekends and hang out with his buddies
at some
sports event.
His biggest problem was which college to pick and how far away from home did
he want
to be. If he didn’t want to go to college he could always join a branch of
the armed forces
or go to a trade school. If he went into the armed service, he was assured
room and
board, clothes and training. If he went to trade school it was probably
close to home and
he could stay in his old room. I am hoping by now that you have a picture
of a guy who
doesn’t have a lot of worries or responsibilities. He is under the watchful
eyes of others
who will look out for his best interests and he lives a wonderful care free
existence.
Doing one task at a time is about his speed.
Then that one Valentines Day, he makes up his mind that the girl he is
dating is the girl
he wants to send flowers and candy and teddy bears to for the rest of his
life. From that
date his whole life changes. Now he’s a guy who goes from carefree to
serfdom in a
manner of days. He becomes a slave to time, to work, to wife. With no
training he is
now worker, husband, father and lover. Balancing his time between the wants
of his wife
and the wants of his work, he tries to make the best at each world. He
smiles while trying
to conquer and master his job, while the needs and wants of his wife are
tended to.
He must show both sides that he is at the top of his game. He must show the
company
that he and he alone is responsible for their success and at the same time
show his wife he
cares for her like no other man has shown a woman in the history of the
world. He has
transformed from an absolute carefree guy to conqueror, lover, provider,
teacher and
slave. How does he do it. After all didn’t that survey and test show that
he is not
capable of performing multiple tasks at once? Shouldn’t he fail at one or
another or all?
The woman who did those test forgot one of the key ingredient that makes
every
successful man or task. That ingredient is love. Love can conquer all
things, mend all
things and makes every chore, job or responsibility a delight to accomplish.
I must hurry off now and finish my tasks for today. I have a roast in the
slow cooker,
washed two loads of clothes while taking a shower and getting ready for
work. I will
close two deals today and run a meeting that will have twenty five people
depending on
my leadership to get their multi-tasks accomplished. Meanwhile, I have
ordered flowers
and made the necessary reservations for dinner while I balanced my checkbook
and my
time between work and family.
Happy Valentines Day.
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